The Crossover Show 004

Success: What does it look like?

crossover showIn this episode, MC and HM talk about suc­cess. What it looks like in your pro­fes­sional life and your per­sonal life.

BOLO — Resources men­tioned in the show:

Simon Sinek — Ted Talk

Ted Radio Hour via NPR - Success

Michael Hyatt’s Site

Daniel Lapin’s Thou Shall Prosper

Ken Davis’ Secrets of Dynamic Communication

Peter Miller’s The Smart Swarm

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The Miracle Morning

Written by a Recovering Night Owl

MiracleI know that title sounds like I’m set­ting you up for a fan­tas­ti­cal tale and some recent shenani­gans around MCPD, but that isn’t entirely true.

If you lis­ten to The Crossover Show Pod­cast (and why wouldn’t you?), you may have heard me talk about a book I read recently, The Mir­a­cle Morn­ing: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guar­an­teed to Trans­form Your Life (Before 8AM). I’ve also men­tioned it on the my Face­book page. This book has been quite the game changer, though, and two quick men­tions didn’t seem to do it jus­tice, so I wanted to take time to give it the atten­tion it deserves.

Let me start by say­ing, I know. For those of us in civil ser­vice work­ing shift work, 0800 may not be some­thing we’re used to.

Not to worry, there’s a fix.  I know cops don’t like change and they cer­tainly don’t like things out­side of their com­fort zone, but I’ve dis­cov­ered that we never grow if there isn’t a bit of dis­com­fort, so put your cyn­i­cism and doubts aside and lis­ten to my experience…perhaps some­thing can change for you as well.

What Punching My Dad in the Face Taught Me about Courage

Dad. My Hero and Mentor.

Dad. My Hero and Mentor.

On May 16, 2015, my Dad was inducted into his high school’s Ath­letic Hall of Fame.

In 1967, he won the State Cham­pi­onship in wrestling. In 1967, my Dad was the best. What did he get for his trou­ble? Well, sev­en­teen years later, he got socked in the nose by yours truly.

See, in 1984, I was bul­lied inces­santly. I wasn’t mocked or belit­tled over the internet…what with it not exist­ing and all. I wasn’t teased ver­bally. Nope, I was full on phys­i­cally bullied.

The 80’s were a dif­fer­ent time. How was a fam­ily to work toward a solu­tion with­out medi­a­tion, ther­apy, and some other ridicu­lous hand hold­ing? Our solu­tion was for Dad to teach me some wrestling moves. So, there we were in my back­yard and Dad has me in a rear-wrist lock (I wouldn’t learn that term for another 14 years or so when I went to the police academy).

He walked me through heel and elbow strikes to dis­en­gage. We drilled over and over.

At some point, like a Hol­ly­wood movie, I stopped see­ing my Dad and there before me stood the bully. My reaction?

I balled up my right hand into a fist and threw a punch right at his nose.

His head snapped back and his hands went to his face.

…and then Dad was stand­ing there.

I burst into tears, of course, hav­ing just socked my Dad in the face. But his reac­tion was price­less. Muf­fled by his hands, he said, “That was perfect!”

A few weeks went by and even­tu­ally the time to try out my new moves came to my door. When my right arm went behind my back and the bully was loom­ing over me, every­thing I learned fell out of my head.

No elbow strike.

No instep strike.

But, I did remem­ber that punch.

When my arm was released and the bully started to laugh. I turned to face him. My right hand clenched into a fist and I hit that dude square in the nose. He never saw it coming.

He never bul­lied me again. And, as an amus­ing aside, we became the best of friends for the remain­der of junior high.

That was over 30 years ago, but the les­son I learned the day I punched Dad in the face has stayed with me all these years.

Dad taught me self-confidence, strength, and there is no such thing as fear that can’t be over­come. That les­son has come in par­tic­u­larly handy in my role as a police officer.

There are plenty of times my job scares me; how­ever, I know courage isn’t the absence of fear, but rather the judge­ment that some­thing else is more impor­tant than fear. I wish I could credit some­one with that quote, but the inter­net attrib­utes it to mul­ti­ple folks.

Doesn’t change the verac­ity, though.

The Crossover Show 003

If You're a Cop without a Gun, You're a Security Guard

crossover showIn this episode, HM and MC talk about the genius deci­sion to dis­arm school resource offi­cers in Baltimore.

Spoiler alert: It’s a really stu­pid idea.

The post on PoliceOne.com can be ref­er­enced here: Bal­ti­more School Police — No More Guns (It should be noted, this show was recorded before Bal­ti­more lost its col­lec­tive shit in April).

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Smart Pas­sive Income with Pat Flynn

Gary Lud­wig on Ama­zon: Blood, Sweat, Tears, and Prayers: Fire­fight­ing and Ems from Some of the Tough­est Streets in Amer­ica or sim­ply go to his web­site.

 

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Gratitude

The Attitude We Should All Try to Have

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I assure you that is one kick ass deck.

I’ve been off work for a week now. As I type this, I’m sit­ting on my new deck. My Dad trav­eled down from Wash­ing­ton to help the Wife and I recon­struct a deck he built nearly 30 years ago. We had to take it down to dirt after almost three decades of wear, Cal­i­for­nia sun, and untold gatherings.

I’m five days out from hav­ing turned 43.

As I put my kids to bed this evening, I was over­come with a feel­ing I hope you have in abundance:

Grat­i­tude

Hav­ing an atti­tude of grat­i­tude is a foun­da­tion in my life.

It hasn’t always been that way. It’s been an inten­tional focus over the past year-and-a-half or so.

If you look back over the seven years of the life of this blog, you are likely to read a very cyn­i­cal man’s per­spec­tive on the world. “Cyn­i­cal” is a kind­ness, by the way. There was a sea­son in there where “Angry” is more apropos.

#HipsterCop Takes Over The World

This subtitle would be too obscure for you to understand

Over the week­end, whilst I was sweat­ing my ass off build­ing a new deck, it seems the Inter­webs went nutty for #HipsterCop.

Who/what is #Hip­ster­Cop, you ask?

Ladies and Gen­tle­men, it is my dis­tinct honor to intro­duce you to #HipsterCop:

#HipsterCop

I’m a fan of this par­tic­u­lar meme sim­ply because I’m a huge beer snob.

Appar­ently, this bloke (it’s cool, he’s British) was involved in crowd con­trol dur­ing the EDL demon­stra­tion in Eng­land over the weekend.

What’s the EDL, you ask?

Beats the shit out of me. I don’t live in Eng­land. We have enough riots and use­less crap in the States, I can’t be both­ered to keep up with civil unrest the world over, kids. Gimme a break.

But, that truly isn’t the point. The point is the Twitter-verse went bat shit crazy over this dude and I freak­ing loved every sin­gle bit of it.

The Crossover Show 002

Death by Firing Squad?!

crossover showWelcome to The Crossover Pod­cast: Episode 2!

In today’s episode, Happy Medic and I dis­cuss the following:

Time Man­age­ment — Also known as how to get your damn paper­work done in a respectable amount of time.

Dri­ver Ques­tionsHM throws a DMV ques­tion at me. I crush it.

The Death Penalty — Utah has recently rein­stated the Fir­ing Squad option for the death penalty. I’ll bet you never guess where we land on this issue!

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Resources we talked about dur­ing the show:

The Mir­a­cle Morn­ing: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guar­an­teed to Trans­form Your Life (Before 8AM)

Smart Pas­sive Income Podcast

Think Like a Freak Podcast

Radi­o­lab Podcast

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